ftp connection failing

is 8081 realy the right port for ftp ?

i just randomly selected a port. did not know that would be an issue. . btw i changed the port to 22 and i do not get that error. however i get a new error now.

2013/02/20 13:54.44: FTP Client command: PASV
2013/02/20 13:54.44: FTP Server reply: Entering Normal Mode
2013/02/20 13:54.44: Upload to FTP now started ...
2013/02/20 13:54.45: [WARNING] ftp_nb_fput() [function.ftp-nb-fput]: An attempt was made to access a socket in a way forbidden by its access permissions.
2013/02/20 13:54.45: [ERROR] Can not transfer backup to FTP server!

please help me fix it. i googled about this and i found that the problem is due to firewall. but i do not use any firewall nor is any port blocked on my line.
i have microsoft security essentials installed though. is it causing the prob?

i completely closed the microsoft security essentials and i am still getting the same error.

2013/02/20 14:37.59: 1. try to sending backup file to a FTP Server...
2013/02/20 14:37.59: Backup zip archive create done
2013/02/20 14:37.59: Archive size is 106.37 MB
2013/02/20 14:37.59: 1. try to sending backup file to a FTP Server...
2013/02/20 14:37.59: Connected to FTP server: 183.82.98.7:22
2013/02/20 14:37.59: FTP Client command: USER XXXXX
2013/02/20 14:38.00: FTP Server reply: User XXXXX logged in.
2013/02/20 14:38.00: FTP Client command: SYST
2013/02/20 14:38.00: FTP Server reply: Windows_NT
2013/02/20 14:38.01: FTP current folder is: /new/
2013/02/20 14:38.01: FTP Client command: PASV
2013/02/20 14:38.01: FTP Server reply: Entering Normal Mode
2013/02/20 14:38.01: Upload to FTP now started ...
2013/02/20 14:38.11: [WARNING] ftp_nb_fput() [function.ftp-nb-fput]: Opening BINARY mode data connection.
2013/02/20 14:38.11: [ERROR] Can not transfer backup to FTP server!
2013/02/20 14:38.11: 2. try to sending backup file to a FTP Server...
2013/02/20 14:38.12: Connected to FTP server: 183.82.98.7:22
2013/02/20 14:38.12: FTP Client command: USER XXXXX
2013/02/20 14:38.12: FTP Server reply: User XXXXX logged in.
2013/02/20 14:38.12: FTP Client command: SYST
2013/02/20 14:38.13: FTP Server reply: Windows_NT
2013/02/20 14:38.13: FTP current folder is: /new/
2013/02/20 14:38.13: FTP Client command: PASV
2013/02/20 14:38.13: FTP Server reply: Entering Normal Mode
2013/02/20 14:38.13: Upload to FTP now started ...
2013/02/20 14:38.14: [WARNING] ftp_nb_fput() [function.ftp-nb-fput]: An attempt was made to access a socket in a way forbidden by its access permissions.
2013/02/20 14:38.14: [ERROR] Can not transfer backup to FTP server!
2013/02/20 14:38.14: 3. try to sending backup file to a FTP Server...
2013/02/20 14:38.14: Connected to FTP server: 183.82.98.7:22
2013/02/20 14:38.14: FTP Client command: USER XXXXX
2013/02/20 14:38.15: FTP Server reply: User XXXXX logged in.
2013/02/20 14:38.15: FTP Client command: SYST
2013/02/20 14:38.15: FTP Server reply: Windows_NT
2013/02/20 14:38.15: FTP current folder is: /new/
2013/02/20 14:38.16: FTP Client command: PASV
2013/02/20 14:38.16: FTP Server reply: Entering Normal Mode
2013/02/20 14:38.16: Upload to FTP now started ...
2013/02/20 14:38.16: [WARNING] ftp_nb_fput() [function.ftp-nb-fput]: An attempt was made to access a socket in a way forbidden by its access permissions.
2013/02/20 14:38.16: [ERROR] Can not transfer backup to FTP server!

see:
https://social.msdn.microsoft.com/Forums/en-US/vbgeneral/thread/a4247db7-5f54-49e9-826c-06d2aa2a77a6/

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