jetpack is loading slow

Could you try to run your tests as an anonymous user, as explained by the author here:
https://www.ads-software.com/support/topic/jetpack-is-a-resource-hog?replies=3#post-5249168

Let me know if it changes the results.

I would also recommend updating to the most recent version of Jetpack, if you haven’t done it yet. We’ve made multiple performance improvements, and significantly reduced the number of queries executed on the front end.

With manual i have 7-80 queryes, but all site is working slow with jetpack on.

Is your site still slow when all modules are deactivated? Once you deactivate all modules, Jetpack shouldn’t run any additional queries on your site’s front end, and shouldn’t affect your site’s speed.

If it is still slow, could you let me know if your site speed is always affected, or if you only experience issues when logged in?

only logged in are problems.
i tried to deactivate all plugins and after i deactivated jetpack all is fine.

i activated debug and are no errors for jetpack. i don’t know what to do anymore…

my other plugins are:
Akismet
Autoptimize
Hyper Cache
ImageLightbox.js
Pretty Link Pro
Rocket Lazy Load
WP Review Pro
Yoast SEO

in htacces i have

RewriteEngine On
RewriteCond %{HTTPS} off
RewriteRule (.*) https://%{HTTP_HOST}%{REQUEST_URI} [R=301,L]
# BEGIN WordPress
<IfModule mod_rewrite.c>
RewriteEngine On
RewriteBase /
RewriteRule ^index\.php$ - [L]
RewriteCond %{REQUEST_FILENAME} !-f
RewriteCond %{REQUEST_FILENAME} !-d
RewriteRule . /index.php [L]
</IfModule>

# END WordPress

#FileETag none
<IfModule mod_deflate.c>
  # Compress HTML, CSS, JavaScript, Text, XML and fonts
  AddOutputFilterByType DEFLATE application/javascript
  AddOutputFilterByType DEFLATE application/rss+xml
  AddOutputFilterByType DEFLATE application/vnd.ms-fontobject
  AddOutputFilterByType DEFLATE application/x-font
  AddOutputFilterByType DEFLATE application/x-font-opentype
  AddOutputFilterByType DEFLATE application/x-font-otf
  AddOutputFilterByType DEFLATE application/x-font-truetype
  AddOutputFilterByType DEFLATE application/x-font-ttf
  AddOutputFilterByType DEFLATE application/x-javascript
  AddOutputFilterByType DEFLATE application/xhtml+xml
  AddOutputFilterByType DEFLATE application/xml
  AddOutputFilterByType DEFLATE font/opentype
  AddOutputFilterByType DEFLATE font/otf
  AddOutputFilterByType DEFLATE font/ttf
  AddOutputFilterByType DEFLATE image/svg+xml
  AddOutputFilterByType DEFLATE image/x-icon
  AddOutputFilterByType DEFLATE text/css
  AddOutputFilterByType DEFLATE text/html
  AddOutputFilterByType DEFLATE text/javascript
  AddOutputFilterByType DEFLATE text/plain
  AddOutputFilterByType DEFLATE text/xml

  # Remove browser bugs (only needed for really old browsers)
  BrowserMatch ^Mozilla/4 gzip-only-text/html
  BrowserMatch ^Mozilla/4\.0[678] no-gzip
  BrowserMatch \bMSIE !no-gzip !gzip-only-text/html
  Header append Vary User-Agent
</IfModule>

<IfModule mod_expires.c>
# Enable expirations
ExpiresActive On
# Default directive
ExpiresDefault "access plus 1 month"
# My favicon
ExpiresByType image/x-icon "access plus 1 year"
# Images
ExpiresByType image/gif "access plus 1 month"
ExpiresByType image/png "access plus 1 month"
ExpiresByType image/jpg "access plus 1 month"
ExpiresByType image/jpeg "access plus 1 month"
# CSS
ExpiresByType text/css "access plus 1 month"
# Javascript
ExpiresByType application/javascript "access plus 1 year"
</IfModule>

 RewriteEngine On
 RewriteCond %{REMOTE_ADDR} ^164\.132\.161\.([2-9]|[1-8][0-9]|9[0-7])$ [OR]
 RewriteCond %{REMOTE_ADDR} ^51\.255\.65\.([2-9]|[1-8][0-9]|9[0-7])$
 RewriteRule ^.*$ - [F]

 SetEnvIfNoCase User-Agent .*ahrefsbot.* bad_bot
 <Limit GET POST HEAD>
 Order Allow,Deny
 Allow from all
 Deny from env=bad_bot
 </Limit>

 SetEnvIfNoCase User-Agent .*semalt.* bad_bot

Thanks for the extra details.

Would you mind trying to activate Jetpack again, and then deactivate the Stats module? Let me know if it helps.