messenging

I’m guessing that you’re talking about all of that on this site, and not your own site?

If so…

How do I enable messaging?

You cant. There is no personal message system on this site. Everything is public and in these forums.

where do i go to adjust my profile as I wish to change my avatar but all i get is gravatar which is a real pain.

Sorry, but that’s done through Gravatar. That’s where all of the avatars on this site come from.

also how do I add a signature

You dont. Signatures end up being way to SPAM’y pretty much everywhere. If you try to use a “fake” one (adding your own signature text to ever post you do) you’ll quickly run afoul of the moderators here.

should have said all this is for MY website
thanks

OK, in that case… ??

For these answers, I’m assuming that you’re running some sort of social networking of forums plugin (eg: BuddyPress, BBPress, etc).

How do I enable messaging?

That depends on which plugin you’re using. BudyPress has things like that built in, and I think that BBPress has something like that as well, but I haven’t used that for so long I couldn’t tell you. Anything that relates to either of those plugins would be best of faksed in their respective support forums (BuddyPress, BBPress).

where do i go to adjust my profile as I wish to change my avatar but all i get is gravatar which is a real pain.

That’s the same answer. It’s all taken care of by Gravatar unless you want to use a different avatar plugin. Your theme might also have that sort of functionality, so it’s worth looking at.

also how do I add a signature

See my firest response. it will depend on which plugin you’re using.

Ok thank you very much for the info I an using bbpress by the way but will check out the links you provided
again
thanks