Need help with site

your theme ‘Graphene’ supports custom menus under dashboard – appearance – menus;

https://codex.www.ads-software.com/Appearance_Menus_Screen

I have a custome menu of the three I wanted, still doesnt work.

After you create your menus, you have to tell your theme which menu to use. Without knowing your theme and without access to your back-end it’s a bit tricky, but usually this is in the Appearance Menu screen on the top left hand side. You should see something like: Header Menu with a drop down or something similar.

Can you post a screen shot of that Menu screen?

See this:

https://blog.kjodle.net/2011/08/25/how-to-create-and-use-custom-menus-in-wordpress/

Oh my God, you just linked to your blog post!!
Kjodle ?? That’s a great tutorial, but may you provide a short summary of the solution in conjunction with the link? So that www.ads-software.com contains some of the solution.

I would love to, but to be honest, I’m not quite sure what problem he was having in the first place, so it’s difficult to summarize an answer.