Oulipo problem with moderated comments

So I am testing the comments on https://www.newlifemonday.com and I have configured them to be held in moderation.

These are the two problems I am having:

1) I have comment moderation turned on but there is nothing to this effect shown on the comment form.

1) After submitting the comment there is no notification that it actually has been submitted and it awaiting approval. All that happens is that the page reloads the post. This is very frustrating for the reader as they have no idea whether there comment actually went through or not.

2) The submitted comment does get through, but it always ends up in the spam folder!

Can anyone help??

Thank you,
Kerstin

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