Sidebar links layout with wp_list_bookmarks

Hello.

I am having trouble with not knowing how to code the php part in inlcudes/bookmark-template.php to get the wp_list_bookmarks to show my Link menu as I want. As it is now, I have made the menu in a textwidget (the upper menu).

Of course I do have a problem aswell with the menu in the textwidget. I don′t get how to get the heading link to change, now I just can change the childlinks.

I rather do it the first way…

Anybody that could help me?

Thanx!