Social Interaction

I have a community site that I am just launching. I want to be able to allow private messaging as well as friendships to be included in the package on the website. I have Users Ultra installed now and I also have a test site which I have jst gotten underway to test compatibility of plugins for a site wide install.

First, I installed Ultimate Member on the test site and can find no private messaging with that install or with the aforementioned Users Ultra. I have tried Buddy Press but either I am missing something or I set it up incorrectly as I can’t seem to see any private messaging on that install. I am also not sure of the security with Buddy Press. I use Clean Talk to stop spammers and that seems to work very well. Long story short I am looking for alternatives that may exist other than the three I have mentioned. I don’t mind paying for a plugin as long as it works with proper set up on my part. Yes, I am looking for something that shines so that I attract more users to the website. Free is good but a reasonable price for something I have not come across yet would suit also.