omg
okies if anyone has this problem in the future, here was the solution to this glitch, and please try not to laugh at me.
<div class="col_sm_holder last">
<div class="col_sm">
<?php if ( !dynamic_sidebar() ) : ?>
<li>{static sidebar item 1}</li>
<li>{static sidebar item 2}</li>
<?php endif; ?>
</div>
<div class="col_sm_bot"></div>
</div>
like i said i used the same code on each page for the side bars.
my glitch was forgetting the number of the sidebar.lol.
corrected code looks like
<div class="col_sm_holder last">
<div class="col_sm">
<?php if ( !dynamic_sidebar(
1
) ) : ?>
<li>{static sidebar item 1}</li>
<li>{static sidebar item 2}</li>
<?php endif; ?>
</div>
<div class="col_sm_bot"></div>
</div>
sooooo
in short i missed putting in a number of the side bar i wanted to use, on each side bar page. called.
you guys are awesome
thank you thank you!