Well I am sure its not a plugin cache. On one site I have super cache and on another i dont have super cache or any type of caching plugin and it still happens. They also have two different themes. I guess I will have to test plugins.
Dont know if deactivating and activating the plugin will help diagnose when it does occur again. Probably whatever the conflict is would already be in place and deactivating plugins would not help.
I guess I will just have to test it out on an empty site without plugins and wait to see if it happens to know if its s2member or not by itself.